They can appear as anything, including no gender. God is unconditional love, not a human, nor a gender.
Not sure I’m reading any of those books, as they say God is a he. That’s like saying male is a superior gender. But clearly it isn’t, as that’s most likely the reason humans are going extinct.
You really think humans would be as horrible if women ran things? Well, women that are Trump supporters would be just as bad.
You can get free books on Archive.org. I should say “borrow”.